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Had Sex In 2 Years. What Can I Do To Feel Attracted To Her Again? I Don't Want To Be In A
Loveless Marriage. Please Help.
Weight gain is quite common among pregnant women. On average, there should be a gain of
10 to 15 kilograms for the whole 9-month period of the pregnancy in order to ensure the health
of a developing baby in the womb.
The weight gain consists of not only fat but also water or extra fluids of the body mostly
centering on the care of the baby's circulation, the amniotic fluid as well as the mother's
After delivering a baby, the weight that a mother gained throughout the whole pregnancy
period, doesn't just magically disappear with a wave of the wand ( if that is even possible).
Some mothers' bodies don't bounce back to their original state even though months or years
Such weight gain and low libido (lack of sex drive) post-baby may cause an issue in the marriage
life. Some baby daddies cheat when their baby mommas are no longer looking attractive to
If you find that you no longer feel attracted to your wife due to her weight she is not
shedding, what are you going to do?
Daddies should not feel guilty for wanting your wife to look attractive to you again. If you are
looking for answers on how to avoid a loveless marriage, then you are still on the right track in
the marriage path.
Telling wives straight up to lose some weight might come off as a sledgehammer on the face to
them. It's going to hurt hearing that from a spouse. Husbands should approach this matter
carefully and with a deeper understanding of the problem.
You need to understand that even if you married a thin woman who gained some weight during
pregnancy, she just doesn't poof back to her original body. You should give her time to adjust to
the new phase of her life. That means being a supportive husband while you both take care of
the baby as this is an equal responsibility.
If you notice that your wife is not putting an effort to lose the weight even after two years, it is
high time that you bring this to her attention. While your main goal is to feel attracted to the
woman you married again, it must not be the main theme of the discussion.
Tell her of the risk of being overweight and how it could affect her mental and physical health in
the process. Back up your claims with science-based findings on how carrying too much weight
could eventually lead to diabetes, high blood pressure, or heart problems.
Also, you should be helpful to your wife if you want her to put some effort into the journey of
losing weight. Take over the household chores while she goes to the gym.
If you are able, you can find a temporary sitter for the kids or a house helper to take care of the
chores while you join your wife in a gym. This could be a wonderful bonding moment together
that might be added to the memory lane of your marriage. Be there with her through thick and
Lastly, you should work out for yourself not to look at the outward appearance or the weight
she gains as a basis for staying attracted to her. As the weight-loss journey might take for long,
you need to look more than the outward appearance to stay in love with her. You should figure
out what are her positive qualities as well. Look at her deeply with a lens of love when she
takes care of the kids, the sacrifices she made to put some meals on the table after juggling
the endless chores in the house as well as how she smiles warmly at you when you get home
You see, love is not merely a feeling. It is a choice that you need to make every day throughout
the whole marriage life. So instead of being critical while she tried so hard in all aspects of
motherhood and being your wife, try to indulge her with praises. Positive reinforcements can
make wonders. Try it and your days will brighten.