My Husband Wakes Me Up In The Middle Of The Night To Have Sex. Most Of The Time I Am Still Sleeping. He Is Upset That I Haven't Had An Orgasm. How Can I Tell Him That I Don't Like Having Sex In My Sleep?

My Husband Wakes Me Up In The Middle Of The Night To Have Sex. Most Of The Time I Am
Still Sleeping. He Is Upset That I Haven't Had An Orgasm. How Can I Tell Him That I Don't Like
Having Sex In My Sleep?

Sex is the ultimate expression of love in marriage. It creates a connection more than the
physical could offer. Aside from its procreation purpose, it is known to be beneficial for
health( as it boosts immunity) and mental well-being (for the happy hormone release on
climax).

What is the best time to have sexual intercourse with your partner?

Ideally, the best time for sex is in the morning. Skip coffee because this is enough to bring your
energy level to great heights. Also, you'll be out the bed, happy, satisfied ready to take on some
challenges at work. Sounds pretty amazing, right?

Studies also show that morning is when women are usually in the mood to get a sexy time while
men are generally sexually alert at night. Sometimes, the clockwork could be to blame if
couples don't connect when it comes to intimacy.

So if your guy wakes you up in the middle of the night to have a sexy time and you don't feel
like doing it, blame it on your unsynchronized circadian rhythms which roughly translates that he is
horny while you are not.

If this happens oftentimes and you really treasure your quality sleep, you can do the following
tips:

1. Straight up and tell your guy that you don't feel like doing it. Be honest, direct, and firm about it.
You don't have to feel guilty about it nor even have to defend your reason.

Women who are forced into having sex oftentimes cannot orgasm.

2. Refuse him now with a compromise. A relationship is all about give and take. Of course, your
avoidance engaging in sex in the middle of the night will inevitably hurt your partner but let
him understand your reason and that you promise to make it up to him the next time you are in
the mood.

3. If he sulks and just wants a connection with you, offer a cuddle. Even men love cuddles from
their significant other. Sex might be an expression of love but there are so many ways a couple
can connect emotionally and mentally.

Maybe both of you have been so busy with day jobs that you lack intimacy in marriage, find
some ways to bond.

4. Make it possible to match circadian rhythms together to match the time when both
of you will be in the mood.

Sleep together at the same time, wake up together, jog outside under the sun, and eat healthy
foods together.

5. Ask your husband if they feel anxious over something. Sometimes men could feel stressed
out and not say anything. The only way they can distress is through having sexual intercourse to
regulate their emotions.

I know, men are wired differently than women who would rather talk things out if something is
bothering them. So, don't shy away from seeking counsel over this issue in your sex life.